Are You Even Listening?

We have ears for a reason, so why do some people only listen either halfway or not at all? Listening is one of the most powerful ways of forming deeper connections with people; it allows us to be more mindful and understanding towards those we care about or want to better understand. But to better understand this issue, we also have to talk about the meaning of general understanding. 

A lack of understanding comes from the inability to listen and/or see the world from another person's point of view. This flaw that some people have can either be good or bad depending on the relationship. When people want to be understood, all they want is for someone to listen without interrupting. And when people want to be heard, they just want someone's undivided attention. If you're someone who values companionship greatly and can lend an ear and attention for someone in need, then you're what some people would consider to be a true friend. And of course, a lot of people can appreciate loyalty as well, but who doesn't? 

Now even though I've had friends who are fun to be around, friendship to me is more than just finding someone who you can have a good time with, but that's not to say that I don't appreciate those fun-loving people as well. I just like sharing deeper, emotional connections with people. When people are able to be honest about their thoughts and feelings, I will appreciate my relationship with that person more and become closer to him/her.

When you talk less and listen more, you are able to better understand a person's struggle in their thoughts and feelings of whatever situation they're in. But of course, that doesn't mean you can't give any advice whatsoever, especially if your friend asks for it. We all have our own ways of helping the people we care for; just don't underestimate the power of only lending an ear.