Believing in Yourself vs. Living an Honest Life

I don't like getting cliche, but I think it's time I address the reason behind that. Life isn't all black and white; not every problem you face in life is going to have a clear solution. If there's anything I know about myself, it would be the fact that I prefer to real, honest and practical in my thoughts.

Confidence has been a struggle for me for as long as I can remember. As much as I like to help other people find their own self worth, sometimes I feel like I fall short on believing in myself. Certain people and events can make me feel weary and doubtful in my own instincts, but despite that, I still try my best to trust what my better conscience is telling me.

Another thing I know about myself is that I don't like hurting other people's feelings unless someone has already done something to hurt me. It takes a lot for me to lose trust and compassion in someone, but whenever that does happen, you can best bet that I'll start to change around you. If there's anything that you need to be worried about, it would be my silence.

Life isn't meant to be easy and sometimes, love can feel like hell. I've learned a lot about myself and what I value most when it comes to relationships. I know I'm not perfect and I know my faults; I just have to remember to not get too caught up in the negatives and treat myself with love and kindness. I have to remember that even if I don't feel that way about myself, I can always count on my boyfriend or other friends to pick me up when I need it most. My family may not fully understand me sometimes, but I know that they still love me regardless.

For as long as I can remember, I've always thought that it was necessary to just let those cliche sayings be what they are. People say all the time that we should just believe in ourselves and not give up on life. People say that we all have a choice in how we want to live our life, and while there might be a little bit of truth in that, I still don't think it's necessary to preach it all the time. I just want to live a more authentic life and just be genuine to who I am. I'd rather just live my life with no extra embellishments because then, I'll be able to see everything I am and do my best to work on improving my weaknesses.

Labels & Stereotypes

For the longest time, I was one of those people who didn't think much about why we label other people and what that does to a person's self worth. And if I'm being honest here, I feel that the less I use labels on human beings, the more accepting I am not just towards other people, but also towards myself and my imperfections.

So why do we label or stereotype other human beings? What good does that do for those who we claim to not be good for us anymore? I mean sure, I get that we should look out for our own happiness and not let other people effect our inner peace. In my own personal opinion however, I feel like we could go without stereotyping others just because we've suddenly turned angry and bitter towards whoever we're angry at. It doesn't help to change us nor does it help the person receiving the criticism. Let's also try to realize here the importance of how we speak towards others when we're not careful with our emotions. Too often than most, we tend to let our own emotions dictate us instead of allowing ourselves to step back, breathe and just think before speaking. Sometimes it's good to be smart with your words instead of being careless half or most of the time.

If I were to call you evil, toxic or just a straight-up b*tch, think about how that would make you feel. Wouldn't you feel a little less about yourself, even if you don't care to admit it? We all have feelings, and sometimes, we can be sensitive towards certain negative words that other people use to describe us. And whether you like it or not, the words we use really DO effect the people we claim to care for.

Negativity in general is just bad for us period, but what's even worse for us is to be stereotyped by either the people we love or the rest of society. I'd like to think that at some point in every person's life, they would want to change their behavior and not stay stuck forever. We all grow up a different paces, and none of us really deserve to be thrown under the bus and put under a label. It shouldn't matter what other people think of us, and those who do the stereotyping should really try to find other words to use instead of just dismissing people as a whole. We're all human and we're all flawed in one way or another; there is no avoiding or denying that period.