Flexibility In Relationships & Men's Mental Health

I'm going to be honest here and say this is something I'm not great at maintaining at times. It's not easy for me to let down my pride and say, "you know what? You're right." I like it when things can go my way and people recognize my way being the right way. However, not every women's intuition or judgment is going to be right. There will be times where we'll need to realize that we're not always right or that our method is the only method that's going to work. This argument can be applied to any area in life, whether it'd be work or relationships with family or a significant other.

In my personal opinion, I feel like men are giving women too much power in some ways when it comes to relationships & marriage. I don't mind seeing myself as dominant in my relationship, but there's a difference between that and having a selfish mindset. Not everything in life is going to revolve around you and you can't make people do what you want. I personally don't want to be someone who is controlling or doesn't know how to be flexible with my partner.

I'm not sure if anyone else feels this way about relationships & marriage, but I feel like there's a lack of balance in power between men and women. I believe that men are just as smart as women. Now I'm no expert when it comes to men's mental health and how that plays into relationships as I've made mistakes in that particular area. If anything though, I do sense that there's a lot of stigma attached to men's mental health in general that needs to be broken down.

If I had to take a guess as to why most men won't speak up about their mental health, I'd say pride/ego is the main issue. And while this may be hard to believe, I do get it. Men at an early age were indoctrinated to believe that they should be strong enough to handle life's challenges. If it's not that though, then it might be because they don't want to be a burden to others who are close to them. Either way however, that ego is what continues to stand in the way.

Finding the right words to say to those men who are suffering in silence is hard sometimes. Every man out there is fighting some kind of battle that not everybody is going to know or understand fully. If there's anything I know about life however, it's that we shouldn't have to carry that pain or trauma alone. Men are just as important and deserve to feel happy in life. We all have people in our lives who care about us. I understand that letting people in isn't easy and life can be hard sometimes. I understand that everyone's circumstances are different. However, pain and suffering is part of life. Some may have be dealt more pain than what that person deserves, but that doesn't mean your life has to end now. All it takes is reaching out to the right people who care enough to help you get better. Yes, it's possible to find a better life. Your self-esteem and mental health is SO important. The choices we make may not always be good ones, but it's never too late to turn all of that around. You just need to be able to recognize what's good for you and what's not. 

Movie Review: Bohemian Rhapsody

I've always been aware of Queen as a band, but I never knew much about them or their music. I only really knew one or two of the biggest hits as they were commonly searched up on Spotify, iTunes or YouTube. When I watched this movie however this past holiday season, I was totally enamored. 

Rami Malik, while he probably wouldn't have been my first choice to portray Freddie Mercury, did an amazing job considering the "role" he had to play. Freddie's personality is something I never got to witness in person as I wasn't born yet, but nonetheless, if he was alive, I feel like he would be proud of Rami's efforts. 

Of course, one can't go without mentioning all the music that was packed into this musical documentary of sorts. We Will Rock You, Another One Bites The Dust, Somebody to Love, and of course, Bohemian Rhapsody are just the few of the many songs that were selected to be in this movie and I honestly enjoyed hearing them all. It's no question that this band was very versatile with their sound as they continued to make music and reach success. 

This may not come as a surprise to anyone who's an avid Queen fan, but I personally found it to be a surprise that Freddie suffered and eventually died from AIDS. What I will say though that doesn't surprise me is that he was able to bring together so many people through the band's music. Some of the music may not have made sense at the time, and it's no question that Bohemian Rhapsody in particular held that kind of view from some of the public, but I would say that it's the best six minutes of enjoyment for anyone who's a big lover of music in general or of Queen in particular. 

So overall, I'd say that this movie deserves all the high praise it gets as it honors Freddie's legacy as well as the band's success in a good light. All of Queen's original band members seemed like good people with good hearts and a simple message to just make music that people will love and enjoy. Some people may not enjoy all of their music and that's fine, but for me personally, I'd say I've become more of a respectable fan now because of this movie.