A Birthday Message to Myself: 9 Valuable Lessons to Remember

With me approaching 29 this month, I figured, why not just give some insights as to what life has taught me all throughout my 20’s? I hope this can be inspiring or helpful to you in some way.

1. How you make others feel is your trademark, so keep on smiling and sending positivity out into the world. In saying this, you don’t have to be happy all the time, and it’s okay to have bad days as long as you try to be kind to yourself and to others.

2. Anger is a valid emotion, but don’t let it poison or consume you on the inside. There may be a million different reasons for why you feel this way, but which reasons are actually valid or accurate? Are they worth speaking up about, or are you just holding onto frustrations that are based on petty things or situations?

3. Most expectations you hold onto will only lead to disappointment, no matter how big or small.

4. Don’t let other people’s negative criticism get to you, for the only thing that’s within your control is how you handle it. More importantly, never allow your soft or kind nature to become hardened by what other people say or do. It’s okay to be more sensitive or intuitive with yourself both mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

5. How you feel about yourself is important both mentally, emotionally and physically. You don’t have to be perfect in all aspects of your health; you just need to nourish and care for your body as best as you can.

6. Go to therapy/counseling as much as you want or need to. You can’t fight all of your own battles alone, and it’s okay to reach out and talk to someone. If you feel like there's a problem that can be easily resolved, then use your resources to your advantage (ex. Take a bath, read a book, do some creative writing or write in a journal, meditate, etc.).

7. Everyone you know and interact with in your life has their own issues they’re struggling with, so don’t take anything personally or spread judgment. Not everyone is going to show up the same way you do or give you constant attention. Live accordingly.

8. For every complaint you have, there’s always something you can show appreciation for. It doesn’t have to take very long; 1 or 2 minutes at the least can be spent on gratitude.

9. Live in the moment as much as you can and enjoy the time you spend with others. The time you spend in your head, overthinking or worrying too much, will only bring more stress and anxiety into your life. By using your resources and taking care of yourself, you can then begin to make room for what really matters.