The more a person grows and evolves, the more people you'll end up losing people along the way. Let me be more specific with this statement: The more you state your own values and priorities to someone who you know doesn't mesh well with you, the less you're going to get back from that person who believes they feel stuck. For full transparency here, I fully recognize how hard it is to walk away from someone who you know isn't serving a purpose in your life anymore. Mistakes shouldn't be confused with any act of disrespect. Honest mistakes can be reconciled if both people in the relationship are willing to be open and communicate at a level that's less driven by pettiness or negative emotions. Disrespect needs to be dealt with in the same manner, obviously, but it also shouldn't be given any passes. It's okay to stand your ground and recognize your worth. It's okay to let the person know what you're not willing to tolerate in the relationship. Friendships and romantic partnerships alike (and also professional relationships) are allowed to have boundaries; without them, you're basically allowing too much chaos to happen. This honestly needs to be stated more often because I truly feel as if there's too much passiveness in some people, and it makes working with them more difficult.
The minute you stop being a child is when you are able to think for yourself and form your own opinions about the world around you. This means that age is relative and maturity is what most people look at within others when it comes to whether or not someone is capable enough. This is why it's important to assess early on exactly what your goals and values are in life. You can work on developing these either with a coach/therapist, or you can do it on your own terms. Whatever choice you make is up to you, but with where I'm at now with my own growth personally, I realize that it's okay to allow other people to offer their support. Finding people who can encourage you and want to see you succeed is important if you decide to start taking on a more active role in your life.
To end this post, I'm going to loosely quote a saying that one of my friends has passed down many times: creating a life by your own design involves a process of healing, creating and becoming. My interpretation of this means that in order to become the person you want to be, you need to not only heal any wounds or traumas that are holding you back, you also need to be proactive and decide/create a vision for what it is you want for yourself. Who do you want to be? What do you want to stand for? What do you want to value, and are your own actions in alignment with that?
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