A Friendly Reminder: Speak Kindly

When it comes to relationships of any sort, whether if it'd be romantic or not, there are two things that I personally find to be important. Action is the first one.

How you show your love is completely up to you, and while I realize that none of us are perfect, we should always try our best to be genuine with the way we extend our feelings to each other. With that being said, I know that there's a number of ways in which a person can show their love, whether if it's with big, grand gestures or even small ones. All that matters is that you do what you think is right for the people you care about.

The human mind can sometimes fall into this mindset of being misguided whether through words or actions, but if there's one thing that can hurt more deeply, I would say it would be the way we speak to each other. Now don't get me wrong here- I understand how painful it can be to experience a person who's misguided in his/her actions, but have you ever been hurt by someone's words? Have you ever been talked down to in a resentful or disrespectful tone?

No one wants to feel like they don't matter, so I do believe that people should start trying to place more value in just giving positive, verbal affirmations sometimes. If you only ever communicate if your child is doing something that you don't approve of, then that's not going to help with that his/her self-esteem. If you only ever converse with your partner when it's most convenient for you or when there's enough time in your day, then he/she isn't going to feel appreciated. If the only time you ever speak is if a family member is starting to act up and won't acknowledge the good things they're doing, then he/she may not feel like they're living up to their potential.

A lot of what we say could honestly help build up people's confidence because in all honesty here, life doesn't come with an instruction manual once we grow up and become adults. It's easy for most of us adults to act like we know everything when in reality, we're just going with what we think is best and only relying on our own experiences; we all have to figure out our own lives individually. No one ever tells you directly how to handle failure, self-doubt and other personal challenges we face in our daily lives. Everyone struggles with something, so that's all the more reason to speak kindly to other people.